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A Little Insight On Traveling Alone

November 30th, 2007 · 4 Comments

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When you travel alone, your mind thinks it’s funny to play tricks on you. Sometimes it says mean things and makes you feel like you did back when you were in junior high.

“Look out, idiot! The traffic is coming from the other direction. Jesus Christ!”

Sometimes it likes to focus on the loneliness (or worse yet, tries to create loneliness when there isn’t any).

“Oh, that was really a stupid thing to say. No wonder you don’t have any friends, you loser.”

I’ve been in town 4 nights. I’ve spent 3 of those nights out and have already befriended a friendly Aussie expat, the couple in the second villa, and three guys who play music over at Flying Piano.

People even recognize me. One of the Flying Piano guitarists calls out “Tracyyyyy. Tracyyyyy!” as I walk down the street.

Four nights I’ve been here. And this guy knows my name. And he’s not the only one.

But, for some reason, my mind is telling me that I’m a lame ass and will never make the cheerleading squad, er, enjoy myself on this trip alone. Instead I should pine for the days when Travel Boyfriend joins me. THEN I’ll really have fun.

Sorry, mind. I’ve got other plans. Plans that start with a little harmless lipstick and end sometime late into the night.

Other Betties Blogging About Traveling Alone

Rambling Traveler gives us 10 tips to meeting people while traveling
Beth at Wanderlust and Lipstick gives us 5 tips for solo women travelers and literally wrote the book (which I intend to review soon) on women traveling by themselves
Ross Tabak at Brave New Traveler helps lead us through the 4 stages of culture shock

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  • 4 responses so far ↓

    • 1 Olivia // Nov 30, 2007 at 6:51 pm

      Some of my favorite travel excursions were solo (or started out solo). I don’t think my boyfriend would have come along for the bungee jumping in Vienna if I’d have known him then.

      Of course, the only other people that SAW me jump don’t speak English, so the story is really only good at this point for article pitching and the occasional free drink…

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    • 2 Ellen // Dec 2, 2007 at 1:59 pm

      I really appreciate your blog entry. We’ve all had similar thoughts during our solo travels. I find I prefer to be with people much of the time when I travel, but I prefer not to bring those people with me from home. I’d rather meet them wherever I end up. The most memorable positive travel adventures I’ve had involve meeting new people and learning about their lives. Some of my strongest negative travel memories are of unpleasant incidents I’ve had with friends or boyfriends I’d chosen to travel with. It’s hard to shut the door on someone who’s living in your hotel room! Or just go home if they’re bothering you. That’s why I prefer setting out solo and joining groups of meeting people by talking to them as I wander around my desired destination. I write all about this on my Web site, boldlygosolo.com. Check it out. Comment and let me know what you think about these issues.

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    • 3 Travel Betty // Dec 2, 2007 at 10:24 pm

      Eek, bungee jumping! Way to be fearless, Olivia!

      I’ll definitely check out your blog, Ellen. Great idea of meeting people on location. I agree that it’s not always easy finding a suitable travel companion to bring with you. Luckily, TB and I are a good team.

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    • 4 Olivia // Dec 2, 2007 at 10:27 pm

      It’s great! The guy who runs it (Jochen Schweizer, he does jumps all over Germany/Austria) is great. And it’s a great reason to have a beer at 1 o’clock in the afternoon.

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